To be able to give positive messages of love and hope to
others, you must carry all of that within yourself.
As mediums, it is important that we work on ourselves
every day, that we learn to love, and stop judging
ourselves so harshly. It is important that we forgive
ourselves, and find peace within so we have no need for
ego or hate.
How can we give messages of non-judgment, love and
closure to others if we don’t know what peace within
ourselves feels like?
Sometimes we come up against very difficult situations
in our readings, where a person has been deeply
wounded, is feeling a lot of pain, has been badly hurt, or
has lost so much along the way that they are devoid of
all hope. Many who come and see us are fragile, and
sometimes at risk of the unthinkable.
If you are not whole within yourself, it is very hard to
stand aside and allow spirit to do its work. You also put
yourself and the person you are reading for in harm’s
way. Sometimes a reading can hit very close to home.
If you haven’t healed from your own past hurts, it can open
up old, deep, unhealed scars.
If a reading has impact on you, it should only ever be
after the reading that you notice that. If you have
stepped aside throughout the reading, and truly allowed
spirit to speak through you, nothing should affect you at
all until after the reading.
Some readers remember more than others. Be aware
that sometimes spirit will show you more the next day.
Often messages for others are shown to you as your own
memories. Trusting and communicating the detail you
remember from your own experiences can make for an
incredibly detailed reading.
It’s so important, however, that although the messages
come through our life experiences, we don’t allow our
own experiences to get in the way of someone else’s
time to heal. No reading should ever be about yourself,
in any way.
While I am reading, I feel many emotions from spirit and
even from the sitter. I know that none of these emotions
are my own.
Sometimes I am reminded of a reading. This can happen
the following day, or it can happen when I am teaching
others. Something will prompt a memory.
It is through
the wisdom of this reflection that I continue learning,
improving my teachings and even finding personal
healing from the advice I have communicated from spirit
for others.
My readings have been my own biggest healer of past
hurts over the years. They’ve not only taught me how to
manage my once very confusing and misunderstood
abilities, they’ve also helped me to find inner peace. I’ve
found peace within myself through helping others to find
hope when they feel all has been lost, and I’ve also found
peace through my ability to understand and empathise
with situations through other people’s eyes.
Usually, the best readers have had the hardest lives.
Challenging lives give you the wisdom and experience to
be able to offer real depth and detail during a reading,
and to be able to feel genuine love and understanding for
every situation.
As a reader, it is not your place to judge. If you are
working with spirit correctly, you can’t judge because
you’re fully in flow and connection with spirit.
Yet even though ‘you’ step aside, who you are as a
person comes through in the reading. It doesn’t matter
how deep you go, spirit needs your tools, your
knowledge, and your personality to work with. Spirit
needs some sort of life form, or life framework, through
which to deliver messages. So, what are the best tools
they can use? The best pieces of you: love, respect,
peace, non-judgment, life experience, knowledge, care
and understanding.
If you notice judgement in your readings, then your
messages won’t be coming from spirit, they will be
coming from your own place of judgment and advice.
Spirit doesn’t judge. Spirit guidance is always pure.
I find it useful to tune in to spirit for non-judgemental
advice and guidance in my own life. I’m not always the
greatest decision maker or advisor for myself, so tuning
in helps to keep me on track and aligns me with my heart
and my purpose.